The freedom being a woman
I have been watching a
lot of documentaries about other cultures recently. Although they have been
very informing, educating, and insightful, one thing stands out to
me. The spotlight is on the fact that as a woman in this country, I
have more rights than most. Yes, women in the United States were not able to
vote until the year 1920 and still had the “role” of wife and mother.
However, in other
countries to this day a woman’s voice does not matter at all. It is almost if
they are someone else’s prize possession. She may have several college degrees
at the permission of her Father however, once she is married that degree means
nothing. How can this be allowed and even praised in other cultures
and religions? Why is this way of living and thinking so normal there but in
the USA, it is frowned upon?
You see women in
India searching for potential husbands in the newspapers and online. Sometimes
it gets to the point where a matchmaker must come in and assist the families.
The future is what each parent thinks about for their children. They want their
children to have more than what they did growing up. I am thankful
that I was not raised in that environment. I was raised to be very independent
and not depend on anyone but myself and the skills I possess.
Now this way of thinking
was helpful as a child but once a became a grown woman, this was a problem.
Only because I was “to strong” of a woman, or an “alpha female.” Finding
someone who excepts my qualities has not been easy to say the least. At times I
get worried and even stressed out. Those are the times when I remember one
scripture: “He that finds a wife, finds a good thing” (Proverbs 18:22).
This is one thing I must
remember I have to be found. In the meantime, what do I do? I continue to
invest in myself, fall in love with myself (not in a conceited way), and sow
the seeds for my future. I will continue to work on my degree and help other
people that are brought my way.
This is not always easy
because I am in my thirties and I want to get married and have
children without a doctor looking at me like a high-risk patient. I see my
circle receiving the prayers that I have been praying for and instead of
getting upset, I become joyful because if it happens to the surly it will
happen for me. I do have moments of if I have been praying for the right
things, or if my prayers are too small. Even then, I remember that nothing
is to hard for God. If it is in his will, it will happen for me. If not, then
he will give me what he has in store for me.
I am thankful that
I have this choice to live this way. My hope is that other countries will
change and allow women the freedom that I have today. When there are times when
you get frustrated that your life is not where you want it to be, look outside
of yourself and see how blessed you have it. Perhaps, you will be the key to
help other people achieve what you have achieved.
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