Stages of dating
Since being single, I wanted to put myself out there and meet people. Being a super busy women with two jobs and a full time school schedule, I tried something new.................online dating. Let me tell you, this process has been far from entertaining. Let's see who I have met thus far:
There was one guy who has his own business and the most adorable little person. He spent a lot of time with me when his schedule permitted but then it turned into "We can only be friends" "I cant give you what you need." Of course we remained friends to this day but it is with boundaries. I care a lot about people but it is not the same in return. Then there was another guy who really challenged me as a women and as a person. He asked the most special questions all the time. It was almost as if his mind was on things that did not matter to me as much as it did him. Needless to say we became friends and most importantly, he is my really good friend till this day. We talk about life, God, family, and so much more. We even serve at the same church now which is an absolute plus. I have so much high hopes for him and I pray that God blesses him to go to the next level. He has grown so much within the past year and for that I can say I am proud. Then there was another who has so much passion for family, friends, mental health, and education. He discovered that while being around me, he was not ready to be in a relationship. Then another one who not only bought his son to our date, but his cousin and aunt as well. I felt like I was about to be interrogated by the whole family tree. I can't forget the ones that find my celibacy as a challenge. For me it is like a cement wall that they want to chisel away to get into this precious treasure of mine. Lastly there are the men with not only little people but with special baby mothers that come into play. I can be completely honest with myself and say as much as I love children, I don't particularly like the situations of Mother's who can not let go, move on, likes to make the Father's lives miserable, and completely ignoring the fact that children are involved. Being in an environment of drama, I do not wish to live in it as an adult. As a child, you don't have a choice with the environment you're in. However, as an adult you have the complete choice of what you allow into your space.
I've been doing the work within myself and I discovered that I tend to date the same type of men that hurt me in the past. Because of this, I made a choice to put myself back out their one last time but wanted to do things a little different. I chose outside of the box and went on a date last night. Everything was fine so I thought then I received a "I don't think we should continue dating because I don't want to send mix messages" texted. It is smart to say that dating myself for awhile will be my best bet. I tend to care for others more than I care for myself, or shall I say I give my time away to others more than myself. It's time to invest in myself and simply have fun. I signed up for yoga classes as well as cooking classes. Time to have one big massive adventure with me and Jesus!
Bring it on!
There was one guy who has his own business and the most adorable little person. He spent a lot of time with me when his schedule permitted but then it turned into "We can only be friends" "I cant give you what you need." Of course we remained friends to this day but it is with boundaries. I care a lot about people but it is not the same in return. Then there was another guy who really challenged me as a women and as a person. He asked the most special questions all the time. It was almost as if his mind was on things that did not matter to me as much as it did him. Needless to say we became friends and most importantly, he is my really good friend till this day. We talk about life, God, family, and so much more. We even serve at the same church now which is an absolute plus. I have so much high hopes for him and I pray that God blesses him to go to the next level. He has grown so much within the past year and for that I can say I am proud. Then there was another who has so much passion for family, friends, mental health, and education. He discovered that while being around me, he was not ready to be in a relationship. Then another one who not only bought his son to our date, but his cousin and aunt as well. I felt like I was about to be interrogated by the whole family tree. I can't forget the ones that find my celibacy as a challenge. For me it is like a cement wall that they want to chisel away to get into this precious treasure of mine. Lastly there are the men with not only little people but with special baby mothers that come into play. I can be completely honest with myself and say as much as I love children, I don't particularly like the situations of Mother's who can not let go, move on, likes to make the Father's lives miserable, and completely ignoring the fact that children are involved. Being in an environment of drama, I do not wish to live in it as an adult. As a child, you don't have a choice with the environment you're in. However, as an adult you have the complete choice of what you allow into your space.
I've been doing the work within myself and I discovered that I tend to date the same type of men that hurt me in the past. Because of this, I made a choice to put myself back out their one last time but wanted to do things a little different. I chose outside of the box and went on a date last night. Everything was fine so I thought then I received a "I don't think we should continue dating because I don't want to send mix messages" texted. It is smart to say that dating myself for awhile will be my best bet. I tend to care for others more than I care for myself, or shall I say I give my time away to others more than myself. It's time to invest in myself and simply have fun. I signed up for yoga classes as well as cooking classes. Time to have one big massive adventure with me and Jesus!
Bring it on!
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